How to keep your friends after Valentine’s Day

With Valentine’s Day tomorrow, these are the best ways to keep up that loving feeling throughout February (and the rest of the year!) – by being chill about the 14th and avoiding alienating your nearest and dearest.
Avoid posting feelings on social media
Whether you’re single or loved up, negotiating social networks can be a minefield on Valentine’s. Just try to avoid oversharing.
A great way to get rid of your single friends is to bombard them with posts about how in love you are and all the special things you and your partner have done/ said/ given. This is likely to make them feel forever alone and even inadequate. However, your coupley mates equally can feel dismissed and ridiculed if you unleash massive anti-capitalism/ anti-love tirades while they are just trying to be spend the day with their partner. So everyone, just take a step back and maybe don’t post your every thought for just one day.
Everything in moderation
I feel like this is a life rule, but is important to remember on occasions when emotions run high.
Just because you’re given a box of chocolate doesn’t mean you have to eat it all. By yourself. In the first hour. You will definitely regret it later.
Too much of anything is not recommended, including sex, especially if your Valentine is new in your life, so just chill. Everything will feel better if you just go with the flow a little. And if any singletons are feeling a bit depressed and decide to have a boozy Sunday, this too is important to moderate. Otherwise you’ll spend Monday feeling crap as well.

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Lower dem expectations
There’s a lot of pressure to make big sweeping romantic gestures on Valentine’s, but realistically most people won’t be proposed to tomorrow. If you have made special plans with your special someone, be reasonable. Things are likely not going to go exactly as you imagined it, but don’t let yourself get upset and instead embrace the chance to see how good you are together at problem solving and laughing at yourselves. It might work out better than you thought possible.
This is also important if you have a crush or are not quite over your last relationship. As a kid I imagined receiving a Valentine from a secret admirer who would somehow magically turn out to be the boy I had a crush on. It never happened and I was always disappointed.
The best way is to have no expectations. That way everything is a surprise!
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
If you’re in the kind of relationship where you just want to touch each other and suck face all day long that’s great. But stay home and do it. At a restaurant or party or really any public place, keep the PDAs low-key and respect that no one wants to see you head on down to Saliva City with your significant other. And it’s likely to make you despised by any singles feeling lonely.
But if you are feeling a little lonely, spouting anti-Valentine’s sentiment and shooting death stares at every happy couples isn’t going to win you any friends or even really make you feel any better. So just breathe, smile and move on.
Celebrate all kinds of love
Romantic love is great, it really is. But so is friend love and family love and pet love and pizza love and any other kind of love.
Maybe spend the day with your besties, and tell each other how much you love them. Or buy flowers for your mum, as a thanks for everything she does. Try to recognise tomorrow as a day for all love and let everyone know how much you love them. It’s only going to be better for everyone if you share those warm fuzzy feelings around.
Let me know your top tips for surviving Valentine’s Day below, I’d love to find out!

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The Bone Season || January Review

The Bone Season (The Bone Season, #1)The Bone Season by Samantha Shannon

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

This book was super hyped. So I left it for months and months on my shelf, unsure if I actually wanted to read it. Until I eventually picked it up. And while I wasn’t blown away, I am still totally down to read the sequel.

The book tells the story of Paige Mahoney, a 19 year old clairvoyant of the rare ‘dreamwalker’ category, which makes her ultra-desirable to the mime-lords (leaders of the underworld voyant movement in London). She is happy enough with her own little gang, until she is captured and taken to a classified unknown colony/ prison camp, Sheol I. Young voyants are somewhat celebrated here for their gifts, but are tortured and ruled over by the Rephaim, a secret superhuman race.

Samantha Shannon is a super young British author and this is her first published novel. The first of an expected seven book series – hence the hype (the next J.K. Rowling?!) I wouldn’t go that far, despite film rights to The Bone Season already being sold, before even the third book has been released.

But the world that she created really was interesting. A combination of fantasy, 19th century London, and some futuristic technologies, being set in 2059. The Scion is a sufficiently evil governing body controlling all of the voyants in Britain. And the Rephaim are similarly foul and torturous. The book is punctuated by drawn out flashbacks, by way of Paige’s backstory. These are useful, because there is no other explanation of Paige’s character, however I would have appreciated them to be more spread out. It seemed like they were all crammed into the second half, which broke up the exciting climax, and meant that for a lot of the book there seemed to be no reason why Paige was the way she was. I suppose then, that the book would benefit from a re-reading.

Given this lack of understanding, I never particularly warmed to Paige’s character. It seemed to me, that almost all the secondary and even some background characters were better characterised than Paige herself. Perhaps this was an intentional move on Shannon’s part, as the entire novel is focalised though Paige herself, and she is still learning and does a lot of growing as a person throughout The Bone Season. There is a really good villain though!

I found the beginning of this book to be quite slow and it wasn’t really until the last 150 pages or so that I actually found myself excited to see what was going to be happening next. So the pacing was a little off, and it followed some of the expected tropes. Also, there was at least one completely unnecessary, and even creepy maybe, love interest that I just didn’t understand at all. But those last 150 pages, were enough to satisfy this reader, I will most likely be picking up the sequel at some point, just maybe not for a little while yet…

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